There is a lot that goes into planning a bachelorette party, especially when it’s located in a totally different city. Between myself, the bride and fellow bridesmaids, we’ve got a few of the best tips to help you throw the most kick-ass destination bachelorette party that you can.
As a traveling woman, it should come as no surprise that I surround myself with other wanderlusters. Many of my female friends are as travel obsessed as I am and love planning trips. For the bride Angie, we knew a standard bachelorette party just wouldn’t cut it.
She is so not the pink sash, penis-clad and vale sporting bride. It couldn’t be further from who she is, so together we brainstormed other ways to celebrate her last few weeks sans husband. And per her request, we decided a destination bachelorette party was the way to go.
If you also have a travel-inspired bride, here are my “How To” tips for planning a kick-ass destination bachelorette party!
Have A Point Person Organizing The Trip
I would recommend choosing a point person for the planning. In our case, that was me. By nature, I love to plan and enjoy doing research on a new destination, so this was no problem. I actually really enjoyed coming up with an itinerary for the week, but it’s important to always keep the bride’s wants in mind.
Find The Right Destination
When selecting a destination, there’s a few things to consider. You want somewhere that has lots of different options for activities, since a whole weekend of hardcore drinking can be a little much. It’s also nice to go somewhere that is a new destination for some or most of the people in the group. This way, you can all share in some new experiences together. Finally, keep costs in mind and choose a location that offers both cheap and high-end options in case not everyone has the same budget for the weekend.
We weighed a few different options, and wanted to keep it within driving distance or short flight. Being based in the Midwest, that really helped narrow our field. We considered Nashville, New Orleans, St Louis and Charlotte. For us, Nashville was conveniently located, a place none of us had visited and a fun town with lots of options to explore. So that was that, and onto the planning we moved!
Make It About The Bride
This celebration isn’t about what you want or what your friends want. It’s about what the bride wants since it is a celebration for her wedding. She should feel comfortable to have fun, celebrate herself and enjoy a weekend with her close friends. Keep that in mind throughout the process.
I found myself asking “What would Angie want to do?” throughout the planning process, which helped me to keep the schedule structured by flexible, with lots of fun local food and activities added into the schedule. She also made it clear that she wanted to do something active to break up all the eating and drinking, and my fellow bridesmaid kate suggested a kayaking trip!
Be Conscious That People Will Be On Different Budgets
I believe it’s important to think about the budget, but don’t cut corners. Being courteous of the cost is always much appreciated by your fellow bridesmaids. Everybody’s gotta eat, amiright? When selecting activities or things to do, think about the costs and offer options for people of all budgets. But also don’t skimp out on activities or cut out activities just because of the cost. I think going to restaurants that offers small and large plates is a good way to do this, and planning in a mixture of bars including dive bars or swankier cocktail joints. You can throw in a day of shopping, but go to a part of town that offers a variety of shops like thrift shops or boutiques, so that everyone can get a little something.
Respect That People Have Different Travel Styles
Finally, identify and respect each other’s travel styles. Everybody has little quirks and travels differently. It was nice in our case that it was such a small group, so it was easy to incorporate a little bit of something for everybody. Written by my friend Kate over at Learning to Love (Your)self, here is what we learned about each other’s travel styles:
Michelle has a personality that draws in basically everyone – especially 85 year old bar patrons and servers that enjoy rom-coms. Megan has the research skill to find THE best foodie restaurants in the city (and the foresight to make reservations weeks in advance). Kate is an escape artist and incredibly easily distracted when she’s drinking, but she always gets home safely. Angie has an affinity for sharing plates when we eat at restaurants, which is awesome because then we get to try so much more.
Overall, our advice would be to have fun, celebrate your friendships and respect one another, because this weekend is all about the ladies!